Monday Message: How to Get Over Your Ex

Today’s Monday Message is not for everyone. Not everyone has an ex they need to get over. But most of us do have a friend who needs to get over their ex! So if you’re not in this category, please pass it along to someone in need.

We’re talking about the ex today, because in order to enjoy the gifts of the present and the future, we have to stop living in the past.

Why is it so hard to get over a past relationships sometimes? Well, because when we were dating that person at some point our mind go attached to our future together. When the relationship falls apart, the brain scrabbles to imagine a new future without this person. It legitimately feels like a lost and a trauma. So don’t be too hard on yourself!

Typically, we don’t know that it’s our brain that is struggling. Usually, we think it’s the heart. But it’s really not. The heart is asking for something new. The reason the relationship fell apart in the first place was because the two of you have vibes that don’t match! What do I mean?

You want something from a romantic relationship. These are desires that come from your heart. Those desires become energy streams that go out into the world looking for their match. At some point, you and your ex may have been a match, but as both of your desires changed so did your vibes, leaving the relationship to end.

When we fall in love, we often think the relationship is supposed to last. But, that’s not true. People come into our lives sometimes for just a period of time. I had an ex come into my life to help me become comfortable with being a writer. Once we finished that work together, the relationship ended. We weren’t aware at the time, but looking back now, I can see it from a different perspective.

Your heart wants something other than what your ex had to offer you, and you have to honor that. Every time you try to think of ways to make the old relationship work, you’re denying your soul’s truest desires.

Instead of wishing and hoping for the last relationship to work, thank your heart for its wisdom. Stop trying to control it, and allow it to do what it does best: give and receive love.

xo, 

Nikki