Falling in love with a dream is like, well, falling in love with a person. The first few months, it’s all about rainbow and butterflies. You want to know everything there is to know about your dream, so you research, research, research. And then you want to make it to feel beautiful, so you create it a beautiful website, a logo, or even just a Pinterest-worthy office space. Been there done that.
Once all the romance becomes routine, shit starts feeling real. And it is at this point we begin to lose focus. Being in this distracted state of mind is heart-breaking and frustrating. I know. I’ve been there.
Walking the journey doesn’t have to be a struggle. There is a better way. Allow me to share with you how I manage to stay on track.
1. Don’t Blame. Rearrange
If you find yourself distracted from what you really want, start by looking within yourself and recognizing that the only person keeping you far from your heart’s desire is yourself. This is a tough concept to accept, but understanding it as truth will give you freedom.
I am completely guilty of falling into a habit of blaming others as the reason for why I haven’t accomplished my goals. When I was younger, I blamed it on my parents, and then my employers. Most recently it’s been a mix between my kids and my husband. Hey, we’re all a work in progress, right?
Every time you catch yourself blaming someone or something else on your shortcomings, ask yourself what do you have to rearrange either your mindset or your schedule.
And the truth is, rearranging usually involves making those tough decisions that we’ve been avoiding. For me, at times, it’s been moving out on my own, waking up early to work on my side hustle, leaving my kids at school longer, or paying money to hire people who can take tasks off my plate. The decisions feel uncomfortable at first, but ultimately they help you realize your own power.
2. Commit to a Morning Ritual
It’s really easy to fall off track if we don’t remember the goal in the first place! If you go days without thinking of your goal, it will take you that much longer to get there. This is why a morning ritual that brings you back to center is so important. After you wake up, wash your face, brush your teeth — whatever it is you need to do to get out of bed —, head over to your sacred spot. Mine is a yoga mat I drop down in my office. Start by sitting in silence for three to five minutes. Once that time is up, bring to mind your big vision, your big dream. If visualizing feels too passive for you, write your big vision in your journal and read it over every morning. Or create a vision board with images that represent your goal. Find a routine that works for you. Just remember to make space for quiet time every morning, where you can bring to mind the work you want to do in the world.
Really, when you’re trying to regain focus what you’re doing reprogramming your brain to commit to a new habit. Working out that new habit every morning by bringing it to mind is how you build the mental muscles you need to stay on path.
3. Don’t Indulge in the Doubt
A lack of focus usually comes from an abundance of doubt. When we doubt our dreams, we tend to look for distractions that will keep us far away from achieving our goals. Maybe you have a big business idea, but you find yourself going off on tangents and trying to work on several projects at the same time. Recognize that habit as doubt. You don’t want to fully commit to one thing because you fear it’s not right path, so you try several paths at the same time. And obviously, it just takes you longer to get to where you want to be. Don’t indulge in the doubt. Pick one path and have the faith that this is right path for you. See it through as much as it hurts. Tangents are distractions. Distractions are doubt. And doubt is just wasting our time.