How to Let Go of What's Holding You Back


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In today’s social media driven world, it can be easy to get caught up in everyone’s picture perfect Instagram feeds filled with job promotions, engagements, weddings, dream home purchases (the list goes on) and think, “what’s wrong with me?” “Why am I not where I want to be?” Well, first of all my friend, I am here to tell you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You probably just haven’t identified exactly what is standing between you and your ideal life. In today’s blog, we are going to dive into one of my favorite topics, discovering what’s holding you back.

1. Identify Limiting Beliefs

Spotting our limiting beliefs is an important step in the process of living our purpose. Often times, the reason we haven’t achieved something is because we have some pesky limiting belief in the back of our mind that isn’t allowing us to. For example, you may hold the belief that you can’t have a job you love and make good money doing it. This belief might manifest itself into the form of a desk job where the pay is great, but you are constantly daydreaming of running your own creative business. So, I want you to ask yourself, “what belief is truly holding me back?” What is the real reason you aren’t starting that business, going for that promotion, starting to date again, etc?

I have to warn you, when we first bring the beliefs into the light, what follows can be darkness. Why? Because through uncovering our limiting beliefs, what we find is the origin. And many times the origin stems from the people in our life that we are closest to. IE: The reason we blame our parents for a lot of things.

2. Overcome the Victim Mentality

This leads me into my next piece of advice. You have to let go of the victim mentality. To be clear, I am not talking about instances where you are a true victim. I’m talking about when we get into the habit of blaming something or someone every single time life gets the least bit hard or disappointing. Feeling like a victim is a common habit. We all do this, even me. As a middle child, I became very comfortable with playing the victim in order to get the attention of others. And it served me for awhile! But as I began to step into a leadership role in my life, I quickly found this old way of thinking was sabotaging my success and happiness. Once I let go of this old way of thinking, I began to feel empowered. So today, just commit to challenging yourself to become more aware of instances when you are falling into the victim mentality and allow yourself to choose to be empowered instead.

3. Stop Caring About What “everyone” Will Think

Caring what other people think tends to fall number one on the list of reasons why we are afraid to do things. And I get it. Relationships are the foundations of our security. So of course, we’re going to worry about what others think of us. However, just because we can rationalize it, doesn’t mean we can let it stop us from living our dream life.

Due to this fear, we catch ourselves saying things like “I can’t do that, everyone will think I’m crazy, weird, fill in the blank.” Let’s break this down, who exactly is everyone? Because I know you don’t really believe that everyone in the whole world is going to judge you. It’s most likely just a small group of people. Take a moment to write them down. Instantly less scary than the image of 7.6 billion people, right? I guarantee you that the people on that list are not thinking about you and what you’re doing all day, every day. It may sound cliche, but the people in your life who really love you, will still be there at the end of the day.

I have beautiful and huge group of girlfriends, who have been my friends since grade school. Most clients ask me if my friends are always asking for readings. The answer is: no. In fact, no one really cares what I do. They don’t really get it. It’s not necessarily their cup of tea.

And sure, I can sit around worrying about what they think about my last post. But I don’t, because I know that if people feel the need to judge me it’s because what I said makes them feel uncomfortable for their own personal reasons, which they need to work through.

4. Meditate

If you haven’t discovered this about me already, I often turn to meditation when faced with life’s biggest challenges. I created a meditation just for you to help you let go of what’s holding you back. Listen to it by clicking the button below.



And if you feel called to work with me one-on-one, you can always book a session with me here. I’m here to help guide you.

Much love to you,


nikki novo